Emotions are a powerful force in shaping our experiences, and when they’re not properly understood or managed, they can contribute significantly to internal and external conflict. Emotions like anger, fear, sadness, shame, and frustration, while natural and often necessary signals, can also distort perceptions, escalate situations, and create misunderstandings.
One of the most common ways emotions contribute to conflict is when emotional reactions override rational thinking. This happens because emotions often arise faster than our conscious ability to process them logically. When we're angry, hurt, or scared, our immediate emotional response can distort our judgment, causing us to act impulsively or defensively, without considering the full scope of a situation.
Example: If someone feels offended by a comment, they might immediately react with defensiveness or aggression, without pausing to understand the intent behind the comment or realizing that the other person didn’t mean to hurt them. This reaction can escalate a situation unnecessarily.
Internal Conflict: Sometimes, we may feel a strong emotion, like guilt or shame, but instead of addressing the underlying cause of those feelings, we might suppress or deny them, leading to inner conflict. The dissonance between how we feel and how we believe we "should" feel or behave causes emotional tension.
It’s important to develop emotional awareness—the ability to recognize and understand our feelings—and emotional regulation—the ability to respond to those emotions in a balanced, healthy way.
Emotions can also influence how we communicate—both the words we use and how we express them. When we’re upset, frustrated, or angry, we may communicate in ways that escalate the conflict rather than resolve it.
Example: A person might be upset about a partner not helping with household chores. They might shout, “You never help with anything!” instead of calmly expressing, “I feel overwhelmed with the chores, and I could really use some help.”
Internal Conflict: After the emotionally charged outburst, the person may feel remorse, as the emotional intensity of the communication can sometimes harm relationships. They may feel guilty about the way they expressed themselves, causing inner conflict between their desire to express frustration and their wish to maintain a healthy relationship.
The Siotha Project workshops are designed to help create more emotional awareness and regulation when facing conflict across family, work, and social settings. Make sure to follow our calendar page for upcoming workshops and events.
By acknowledging and processing emotions rather than allowing them to control us, we can reduce unnecessary conflict and improve our ability to respond calmly and constructively in challenging situations. Feel free to reach out with questions on how to manage emotions and conflict: hellosiotha@gmail.com
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